The Observer
Other people misjudge the motives of a person who is reluctant or refuses to give help. Some believe that such a person is not sympathetic to others’ misfortunes, judging them from predispositions and assumptions. However, this is not always the case. Such judgments usually fail to see things from the perspective of the recipient.
While it is true that actual help has to be provided without expecting anything in return, there are instances wherein one can identify that giving aid is futile. Mostly, not giving assistance is caused by the attitude of the party being assisted regarding the provided assistance. Whenever help is never appreciated, it becomes increasingly difficult to continue providing it.
Imagine spending your time assisting someone who you believe is in dire need, yet to have them invalidate the effort you have so diligently and conscientiously performed, though with more exertion than you normally dedicate to your own endeavors. How would you respond? Encounters such as these discourage further assistance. Over time, people are reluctant to assist specific groups, yet they are unfairly condemned as insensitive without any consideration of repeated actions from the recipient, which induced this hesitation.
